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@@ -12,9 +12,8 @@ <h1 id="how-to-seduce-me">How to Seduce Me</h1>
 <div style="text-align: center;">
 <p><img src="images/Maid_In_Field.png" /></p>
 </div>
-<p>Bottoms typically want to feel the same ways. The things that make
-them feel that way may differ. But we all want to feel wanted, loved,
-and heard. So, here's how to seduce me in four easy steps.</p>
+<p>So, you met me at a munch. Here's how to seduce me in a few easy
+steps.</p>
 <p>Different people want to be made to feel different ways. And there
 are different ways that the want to be made to feel that way. "All human
 emotion and sexuality" is a broad spectrum. Seducing people, I've found,
@@ -41,23 +40,23 @@ <h3 id="consent">Consent</h3>
 friends to introduce you. If you're a friend of a friend, then I trust
 my friend, so I trust you. If you hurt me you'll also damage your
 relationship with our mutual friend. Which clearly, if our mutual friend
-is willing to introduce you, has not happened so far. You'll have a
-track record of being reliable, so I will trust you by proxy.</p>
+is willing to introduce you, has not happened so far. You have a track
+record of being reliable, so I will trust you by proxy.</p>
 <p>The other way to prove you're not malicious is to show that you
-understand consent. Cis, non-kinky people in general do not understand
-consent in the same way that we do. They think it's about not raping
-people. A good start, sure. But polyamorous kink where you have to
-tactfully keep track of multiple (potentially dysphoric) partners, their
-boundaries, and often kinks involving simulated noncon scenarios... It's
-a whole different ball game. It's simple and natural for us, but not for
-others. Consent is not a binary thing, it's a conversation. Usually a
-multi-hour months-ongoing conversation about what people want and
-why.</p>
+understand consent. Popular culture in general does not understand
+consent in the same way that we do. People seem to think that it's about
+not raping people. A good start, sure. But polyamorous kink where you is
+a whole different ball game. It's simple and natural for us, but most
+people would be lost.</p>
+<p>Consent is not a binary thing, it's a conversation. Usually a
+multi-hour months-ongoing conversation about what makes people tick and
+why. That discussion continues during play. Consent is a feeling I get.
+It's the trust you'll be there for me at my most vulnerable.</p>
 <p>It's not that a normie can't learn how to navigate this stuff. But
-they would be playing on hard mode. They need a guide. If I'm going to
-let them take the offensive, I need to know that they're ready for that
-conversation. Most cis people are not. But if you are, then I trust you
-to make the next move.</p>
+they would be playing on hard mode. If I'm going to let you take the
+offensive, I need to know that you're ready for that conversation. Most
+cis people are not. But if you want to deeply understand me and be
+deeply understood, then I trust you to make the next move.</p>
 <h3 id="interest">Interest</h3>
 <p>You do have to catch my eye in some way. If you're a turbonormie,
 then gtfo. But if you're reading this, you're probably not. You've got a
@@ -69,22 +68,21 @@ <h3 id="interest">Interest</h3>
 of "put together." Have an aesthetic. Maybe I'll like it. For example,
 walk around a sex dungeon in a dress with dinosaurs on it, holding a
 dinosaur plushie. That's an aesthetic. Now you're dinosaur girl.
-Incredibly hot and interesting. 10/10 would snuggle. Holy shit.</p>
+Incredibly hot and interesting. 10/10. Holy shit.</p>
 <p>The other way to make me interested in you is to hit it off in
-conversation. I like people who are passionate about something. That
-makes hitting it off a lot more likely, and if we do, that makes you
-interesting. If there's an attractiveness scale out of 10, which there
-isn't, an interesting conversation bumps you up at least three
-points.</p>
+conversation. Be passionate about something. That makes hitting it off a
+lot more likely, and if we do, that makes you interesting. If there's an
+attractiveness scale out of 10, which there isn't, an interesting
+conversation bumps you up at least three points.</p>
 <h2 id="step-2-flirt-aggressively.">Step 2: Flirt aggressively.</h2>
 <h3 id="when-do-i-pivot">When do I pivot?</h3>
 <p>Once you've got my trust, how do you know? Honestly, it's hard.
 Besides some subtle and often misleading body language there won't be
 many external signs. The best thing to do is to ask.</p>
 <p>Before you do, it's best to know beforehand what my relationship
-status is, if it's open, what my sexuality is, etc. Ideally at the start
-of the conversation. Otherwise you probably don't know me well enough to
-ask me out. If you don't know beforehand, that's not a dealbreaker. Just
+status is, if it's open, what my sexuality is, etc. Ideally towards the
+start of the conversation. If you don't know beforehand, that's not a
+dealbreaker. But if you ask at the end that makes it kinda awkward. So
 try to sequence these questions towards the beginning of the
 conversation.</p>
 <p>Usually, I start with "Hey, I think you're cute..." and follow up
@@ -102,20 +100,20 @@ <h3 id="when-do-i-pivot">When do I pivot?</h3>
 not, whatever's most comfortable. Whichever way it goes, you'll probably
 still get a friend out of the deal.</p>
 <p>They say that "the worst they can say is no." That's obviously not
-true. I can do a lot worse to you. But if worse does happen you're
-probably either incredibly socially inept, or I've had some sort of
-psychotic break. I'm assuming we're going to be talking for a while
-before you decide to pivot. So you should have a pretty well calibrated
-expectation of how I'll respond.</p>
+true. I can do a lot worse to you. But I probably won't. If I reject
+you, you're either not my type, or you're incredibly socially inept. I'm
+assuming we're going to be talking for a while before you decide to
+pivot though. So you should have a pretty well calibrated expectation of
+how I'll respond.</p>
 <p>When you make your move, it's important that you're confident.
-Remember, bottoms want to be led. We want to feel wanted. It's not as
-effective if it seems like you just kinda sorta casually want me. It
-needs to be convincing. The vibe that you might want to set is something
-along the lines of "When I see someone cute, I tell them like it is."
-That way it's convincing, but doesn't come across as a creepy
-obsession.</p>
-<p>This is... a skill. It's not easy. But if it works, I'll absolutely
-melt. I'll be putty in your hands. Total victory.</p>
+Remember, bottoms want to feel wanted. It's not as effective if it seems
+like you just kinda sorta casually want me. It needs to be convincing.
+The vibe that you might want to set is something along the lines of
+"When I see someone cute, I tell them like it is." That way it's
+convincing, but doesn't come across as a creepy obsession.</p>
+<p>Confidence is... a skill. It's not easy. But if you get the mood
+right, I'll absolutely melt. I'll be putty in your hands. We love gentle
+assertive tops.</p>
 <h3 id="after-the-pivot">After the pivot</h3>
 <p>Once you have my enthusiastic consent, be sure to take advantage of
 it. Touch me. Play with me. Pin me to the wall.</p>
@@ -130,8 +128,10 @@ <h3 id="after-the-pivot">After the pivot</h3>
 people who aren't shy about their kinks often need a long time to
 formulate what they're saying.</p>
 <p>Here is the best explanation I've seen for the concept of consent
-being a conversation. * <a href="">Rope and Consent</a></p>
-<p>And, This checklist can be a good starting point for consent
+being a conversation. * <a
+href="https://www.kinbakutoday.com/rope-and-trust/">Rope and
+Trust</a></p>
+<p>This checklist can be a good starting point for consent
 conversations. They tend to meander, and that is fine and good. * <a
 href="">Consent checklist</a></p>
 <h3 id="general-advice-and-remarks">General advice and remarks</h3>

blog/Seduction.html

@@ -264,9 +264,8 @@ <h1 id="how-to-seduce-me">How to Seduce Me</h1>
 <div style="text-align: center;">
 <p><img src="images/Maid_In_Field.png" /></p>
 </div>
-<p>Bottoms typically want to feel the same ways. The things that make
-them feel that way may differ. But we all want to feel wanted, loved,
-and heard. So, here's how to seduce me in four easy steps.</p>
+<p>So, you met me at a munch. Here's how to seduce me in a few easy
+steps.</p>
 <p>Different people want to be made to feel different ways. And there
 are different ways that the want to be made to feel that way. "All human
 emotion and sexuality" is a broad spectrum. Seducing people, I've found,
@@ -293,23 +292,23 @@ <h3 id="consent">Consent</h3>
 friends to introduce you. If you're a friend of a friend, then I trust
 my friend, so I trust you. If you hurt me you'll also damage your
 relationship with our mutual friend. Which clearly, if our mutual friend
-is willing to introduce you, has not happened so far. You'll have a
-track record of being reliable, so I will trust you by proxy.</p>
+is willing to introduce you, has not happened so far. You have a track
+record of being reliable, so I will trust you by proxy.</p>
 <p>The other way to prove you're not malicious is to show that you
-understand consent. Cis, non-kinky people in general do not understand
-consent in the same way that we do. They think it's about not raping
-people. A good start, sure. But polyamorous kink where you have to
-tactfully keep track of multiple (potentially dysphoric) partners, their
-boundaries, and often kinks involving simulated noncon scenarios... It's
-a whole different ball game. It's simple and natural for us, but not for
-others. Consent is not a binary thing, it's a conversation. Usually a
-multi-hour months-ongoing conversation about what people want and
-why.</p>
+understand consent. Popular culture in general does not understand
+consent in the same way that we do. People seem to think that it's about
+not raping people. A good start, sure. But polyamorous kink where you is
+a whole different ball game. It's simple and natural for us, but most
+people would be lost.</p>
+<p>Consent is not a binary thing, it's a conversation. Usually a
+multi-hour months-ongoing conversation about what makes people tick and
+why. That discussion continues during play. Consent is a feeling I get.
+It's the trust you'll be there for me at my most vulnerable.</p>
 <p>It's not that a normie can't learn how to navigate this stuff. But
-they would be playing on hard mode. They need a guide. If I'm going to
-let them take the offensive, I need to know that they're ready for that
-conversation. Most cis people are not. But if you are, then I trust you
-to make the next move.</p>
+they would be playing on hard mode. If I'm going to let you take the
+offensive, I need to know that you're ready for that conversation. Most
+cis people are not. But if you want to deeply understand me and be
+deeply understood, then I trust you to make the next move.</p>
 <h3 id="interest">Interest</h3>
 <p>You do have to catch my eye in some way. If you're a turbonormie,
 then gtfo. But if you're reading this, you're probably not. You've got a
@@ -321,22 +320,21 @@ <h3 id="interest">Interest</h3>
 of "put together." Have an aesthetic. Maybe I'll like it. For example,
 walk around a sex dungeon in a dress with dinosaurs on it, holding a
 dinosaur plushie. That's an aesthetic. Now you're dinosaur girl.
-Incredibly hot and interesting. 10/10 would snuggle. Holy shit.</p>
+Incredibly hot and interesting. 10/10. Holy shit.</p>
 <p>The other way to make me interested in you is to hit it off in
-conversation. I like people who are passionate about something. That
-makes hitting it off a lot more likely, and if we do, that makes you
-interesting. If there's an attractiveness scale out of 10, which there
-isn't, an interesting conversation bumps you up at least three
-points.</p>
+conversation. Be passionate about something. That makes hitting it off a
+lot more likely, and if we do, that makes you interesting. If there's an
+attractiveness scale out of 10, which there isn't, an interesting
+conversation bumps you up at least three points.</p>
 <h2 id="step-2-flirt-aggressively.">Step 2: Flirt aggressively.</h2>
 <h3 id="when-do-i-pivot">When do I pivot?</h3>
 <p>Once you've got my trust, how do you know? Honestly, it's hard.
 Besides some subtle and often misleading body language there won't be
 many external signs. The best thing to do is to ask.</p>
 <p>Before you do, it's best to know beforehand what my relationship
-status is, if it's open, what my sexuality is, etc. Ideally at the start
-of the conversation. Otherwise you probably don't know me well enough to
-ask me out. If you don't know beforehand, that's not a dealbreaker. Just
+status is, if it's open, what my sexuality is, etc. Ideally towards the
+start of the conversation. If you don't know beforehand, that's not a
+dealbreaker. But if you ask at the end that makes it kinda awkward. So
 try to sequence these questions towards the beginning of the
 conversation.</p>
 <p>Usually, I start with "Hey, I think you're cute..." and follow up
@@ -354,20 +352,20 @@ <h3 id="when-do-i-pivot">When do I pivot?</h3>
 not, whatever's most comfortable. Whichever way it goes, you'll probably
 still get a friend out of the deal.</p>
 <p>They say that "the worst they can say is no." That's obviously not
-true. I can do a lot worse to you. But if worse does happen you're
-probably either incredibly socially inept, or I've had some sort of
-psychotic break. I'm assuming we're going to be talking for a while
-before you decide to pivot. So you should have a pretty well calibrated
-expectation of how I'll respond.</p>
+true. I can do a lot worse to you. But I probably won't. If I reject
+you, you're either not my type, or you're incredibly socially inept. I'm
+assuming we're going to be talking for a while before you decide to
+pivot though. So you should have a pretty well calibrated expectation of
+how I'll respond.</p>
 <p>When you make your move, it's important that you're confident.
-Remember, bottoms want to be led. We want to feel wanted. It's not as
-effective if it seems like you just kinda sorta casually want me. It
-needs to be convincing. The vibe that you might want to set is something
-along the lines of "When I see someone cute, I tell them like it is."
-That way it's convincing, but doesn't come across as a creepy
-obsession.</p>
-<p>This is... a skill. It's not easy. But if it works, I'll absolutely
-melt. I'll be putty in your hands. Total victory.</p>
+Remember, bottoms want to feel wanted. It's not as effective if it seems
+like you just kinda sorta casually want me. It needs to be convincing.
+The vibe that you might want to set is something along the lines of
+"When I see someone cute, I tell them like it is." That way it's
+convincing, but doesn't come across as a creepy obsession.</p>
+<p>Confidence is... a skill. It's not easy. But if you get the mood
+right, I'll absolutely melt. I'll be putty in your hands. We love gentle
+assertive tops.</p>
 <h3 id="after-the-pivot">After the pivot</h3>
 <p>Once you have my enthusiastic consent, be sure to take advantage of
 it. Touch me. Play with me. Pin me to the wall.</p>
@@ -382,8 +380,10 @@ <h3 id="after-the-pivot">After the pivot</h3>
 people who aren't shy about their kinks often need a long time to
 formulate what they're saying.</p>
 <p>Here is the best explanation I've seen for the concept of consent
-being a conversation. * <a href="">Rope and Consent</a></p>
-<p>And, This checklist can be a good starting point for consent
+being a conversation. * <a
+href="https://www.kinbakutoday.com/rope-and-trust/">Rope and
+Trust</a></p>
+<p>This checklist can be a good starting point for consent
 conversations. They tend to meander, and that is fine and good. * <a
 href="">Consent checklist</a></p>
 <h3 id="general-advice-and-remarks">General advice and remarks</h3>