fix(release): ensure our npm options are used during make-distribution

[trentm]

Fixes: #3968

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• Once this is in, then move the v4.5.1 tag to that commit and ensure the release works.

[trentm]

• Once this is in, then move the v4.5.1 tag to that commit and ensure the release works.

Or not:

% git push origin :v4.5.1
remote: error: GH006: Protected tag update failed for refs/tags/v4.5.1.
remote: error: You're not authorized to delete a protected tag
To github.com:elastic/apm-agent-nodejs.git
 ! [remote rejected]   v4.5.1 (protected tag hook declined)
error: failed to push some refs to 'github.com:elastic/apm-agent-nodejs.git'