[8.16](backport #4536) use golang-crossbuild native to ARM64

[mergify]

What is the problem this PR solves?

• Use [1.23] fix(go/base): set GOTOOLCHAIN=local and skip building arm using the base Dockerfile golang-crossbuild#527
• Use the specific golang-crossbuild image for arm64 in arm64

How does this PR solve the problem?

// Explain HOW you solved the problem in your code. It is possible that during PR reviews this changes and then this section should be updated.

How to test this PR locally

In the CI, we ran https://buildkite.com/elastic/fleet-server-package-mbp/builds/1673

Design Checklist

• I have ensured my design is stateless and will work when multiple fleet-server instances are behind a load balancer.
• I have or intend to scale test my changes, ensuring it will work reliably with 100K+ agents connected.
• I have included fail safe mechanisms to limit the load on fleet-server: rate limiting, circuit breakers, caching, load shedding, etc.

Checklist

• I have commented my code, particularly in hard-to-understand areas
• I have made corresponding changes to the documentation
• I have made corresponding change to the default configuration files
• I have added tests that prove my fix is effective or that my feature works
• I have added an entry in ./changelog/fragments using the changelog tool

Related issues

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This is an automatic backport of pull request #4536 done by [Mergify](https://mergify.com).

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[v1v]

I won't merge this but wait for the owners to do it

[elastic-sonarqube]

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