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Author: gitKrystan

packages/graph/src/-private/operations/replace-related-records.ts

@@ -271,7 +271,8 @@ function replaceRelatedRecordsRemote(graph: Graph, op: ReplaceRelatedRecordsOper
       // because we want to clear local changes even if
       // no change has occurred to preserve the legacy behavior
       relationship.definition.kind === 'hasMany' &&
-      relationship.definition.resetOnRemoteUpdate !== false
+      relationship.definition.resetOnRemoteUpdate !== false &&
+      diff.changed
     ) {
       const deprecationInfo: {
         removals: StableRecordIdentifier[];